To Give or NOT to give

January 10, 2007

by Mohan

Just yesterday, while stopping at the traffic junction of BTM Layout, right in front of Udupi Gardens, I had to face a dilemma.

Outstretched palms of a small 4-year-kid with a hungry look on face was asking for help. Quickly my hands fumbled for that one rupee coin which would buy a small chocolate for the kid. Just when I thought I was about to do something great, my concience stopped me.

Long time back I had a great friend who would stop me from doing these charities and would chastise me saying “Mohan, dont give alms to kids, they stop going to school and hook on to this bad habit for life.”

The same thoughts minus my old friend on pillion played hide and seek in my mind.

So people, what do you think is the ideal answer? What would you do if faced with the above dilemma?

Of course the honkings on the green light made me take a start from that junction – nevertheless the question remains.

10 Responses to “To Give or NOT to give”

  1. TSSM Says:

    The answer, my friend lies
    in the following piece of advice
    by Mother Teresa.

    DO IT ANYWAY

    People are often unreasonable, illogical,
    And self-centered;
    Forgive them anyway.

    If you are kind, people may accuse you
    Of selfish, ulterior motives;
    Be kind anyway.

    If you are successful, you will win some
    False friends and some true enemies;
    Succeed anyway.

    If you are honest and frank;
    People may cheat you;
    Be honest and frank anyway.

    What you spend years building,
    someone could destroy overnight;
    Build anyway.

    If you find serenity and happiness,
    they may be jealous;
    Be happy anyway.

    The good you do today,
    people will often forget tomorrow;
    Do good anyway.

    Give the world the best you have,
    and it may never be enough;
    Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.

    You see, in the final analysis
    it is between you and God
    It was never between you and them anyway So my advice is :
    if your hand goes into the pocket
    to offer alms,
    do it anyway.
    for who are we do jugdge
    who is right, who is wrong ?

    With best wishes

  2. usha Says:

    Sincere and tocuhing advice by the mother, thx TSSM for sharing it๐Ÿ™‚

  3. praneshachar Says:

    It is always better if we don’t encourage children by this.
    but system makes them to do this their parents only are asking them to do it for various reasons. If they tasts this
    easy money afterwards niether they will go to school nor they earn their livilihood by gainful employement. there are instances where these beggers earn quite a lot only to be used by somebody to meeth their requirements.
    I was seeing TV yesterday this is not on begging but on child labour and bisi oots scheme of govt.
    where one parent will come to school in a village and teacher
    complains to hims his ward is not punctual the man will be searching for the ward and once he traces him he scold
    why are you here I told you to go to fields after collecting your bisi oota.

    deserving cases you can pay alms like handicaped aged who are totally not able to work etc. etc.,

    child labour & emloying child labour and begging by child giving alms to child both are bad


  4. Very Touchy.. enri mohan full change aagbiTTideera, istondu sentimentu nimage olledalla bidi, I mean bhooshaNa alla antha.
    Even I undergo the same dilemma with such things, I was almost in tears when I saw those first few clips in the movie’C/o of footpath’.
    One best thing we can do is, ask him if needs food & take him to your house & feed him & tell them that he gets a free meal if he attends the school everyday.
    Our Govt School kids most of them come to school for the ‘bisioooTa’, they are so kind. They pack food for their mother & siblings with what they get. I read in dailies that they plan to give them an ‘anda’ now. Food & healthy food is a worthful-giving!!

    Nice post ree Mohan, neeve blog open maadi..Maintain maadodu kashTa antheera nange gottu bidi๐Ÿ™‚

    Bellur, good job reeeeeee.

  5. SHADOW Says:

    Strictly NO from me, YES only if they are physically disable.

  6. Vani Says:

    Hmm
    I too have the same dilemma…it is so difficult to turn your face away from those beseeching eyes….
    but I hear there is something called “Beggar mafia” too. So I would like to discourage and nip it in the bud

  7. TSSM Says:

    I stand corrected.

    Yes ,there is a beggar mafia working at the bus stands, railway stations, traffic signal junctions etc., One has to be watchful about them and should not encourage them. They have professionalised begging.

    I have seen in Delhi some time back that it is the Driver of a vehicle who is penalised for giving alms to beggars at Traffic signals, irrespective of the donor (within the vehicle), who did it .

  8. M O H A N Says:

    TSSM – thanks for that good poem and the ending balanced view.

    Praneshachar, usha , vani – Thx for observations

    Veena – This is a real question in real time, no leg pulling, no jokes. Just checking the friends like you.

    Shadow – Good point too.

  9. M O H A N Says:

    Latest update. I got what i should do.

    http://www.dnaindia.com/report.asp?NewsID=1073815

    Never ever encourage the kids.

  10. praneshachar Says:

    Mohan yes true
    on this we can also recall our kannada film “CHINNARI MUTTA” ON BEGGING MAFIA
    i AGREE NEVER EVER ENCOURAGE THE KIDS FOR THIS
    SUPPORT CHILD FOR SCHOOL SPONSOR A CHILD FOR SCHOOL OR A DAY FOOD FOR POOR CHILDREN GOING TO SCHOOL ETC., BUT NEVER GIVE THEM ALMS


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