by Latha Vidyaranya
It is the second Sunday of May. It is Mothers’ day. In all newspapers, magazines and web sites, you see advertisements asking you to celebrate Mother’s day in your own special way, gifting your moms a nice dinner or a jewellery or whatever you can get her with love…
I happened to read a nice article and thought I would share some of the feelings expressed in the article, which any mother anywhere in the world would agree with.
Any successful woman who has reached some significant height in her work place/ entrepreneurship is asked the first question – How do you balance your work and your home? Mind you, nobody asks a successful man if he has spent some quality time with his kids – because no Indian male is ever expected to do it! But every working woman, even in this 21st century, is expected to be a perfect mom and also a perfect home maker. If she is not, then she has to bear this heavy cross upon her shoulder all her life experiencing guilt trips every moment she tries to relax or tries to further her career. Anything going wrong in the family, the society points a finger at her as if the fathers are in no way accountable.
On this Mother’s day, I would like to call upon all fathers, all going-to-be-fathers and all men to take an unspoken oath of equal parenting. Let all men pitch in equal time at home, at parenting and ease the burden she is carrying. Let them pave way for the lady of the house to come out in to the world of work and express her creativity and her individuality. Let her also develop an identity of her own that is not strung to the apron strings alone. Let man celebrate the arrival of woman and I am sure the lady will love him with all the gratitude and we would be sending out a subtle message to all our male kids to take pride and pleasure in equal parenting responsibilities.
Moms, dont you all think this would be the greatest gift the society can give to her on this Mother’s day!
Happy Mother’s Day! Thanks to all fathers in anticipation of their cooperation!
Also read: A son need not be like his father
(Latha Vidyaranya is a Special Educator and Counsellor and has founded ‘Empower Counselling Centre’ in Malleswaram, Bangalore.)