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Random Jottings on Facebook – 6

July 15, 2016

ಬ್ರಿಟನ್ ಇಲ್ಲಿಂದ ಎಕ್ಸಿಟ್ ಆದ್ರು.
ಬ್ರಿಟನ್ EUಇಂದ ಎಕ್ಸಿಟ್ ಆದ್ರು.
ಬ್ರೆಕ್ಸಿಟ್ಟೋ ಗಿಕ್ಸಿಟ್ಟೋ, ನಮ್ದಂತೂ ಲಂಡನ್-ಗೆ ಡೈಲಿ ಎಂಟ್ರಿ ಎಕ್ಸಿಟ್ ಇದ್ದೇ ಇರತ್ತೆ.

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“Do not lose your friends.
When with friends, do not go near water.”
I’m sure you’ll agree with the above words.
There is a famous Mantra too, which says what is said above.
Shun ‘No’ Mitrah
Shun Varunah!

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ಇಪ್ಪತ್ ಮೂವತ್ ವರ್ಷಗಳ ಹಿಂದೆ, ಆಸ್ಪತ್ರೆಗಳಿಗೆ ಹೋದ್ರೂ ಅಂದ್ರೆ, ವಾಪಸ್ ಬರೋ ಚಾನ್ಸಸ್ ಕಮ್ಮಿ ಇತ್ತು. ಈಗೆಲ್ಲ ಹಾಗಲ್ಲ. ಯಾಕೆ ಗೊತ್ತಾ?
“ಮೆಡಿಕಲ್ ಸೈನ್ಸ್ advanced ಆಗಿದೆ, improve ಆಗಿದೆ” ಅಂತ ಹೇಳಿದ್ರಾ? ಅದಲ್ಲ ಗುಟ್ಟು.
ಈಗೆಲ್ಲ ಆಸ್ಪತ್ರೆ ಕಾಂಪೌಂಡಲ್ಲಿ ದೇವಸ್ತಾನ ಇರತ್ತೆ. ಅದು secret.

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ಯೇನೋ ಕೋದಂಡ, ಫಾರಿನ್ ಹೆಂಗಿತ್ತು?
ಸಕತಾಗಿತ್ತು ಮಗಾ!
ಅಲ್ಲಿರೋರ್ಗೆ ನಿನ್ ಹೆಸ್ರ್ ಹೇಳಕ್ಕ್ ಯೇನ್ ಪ್ರಾಬ್ಲಮ್ ಆಗ್ಲಿಲ್ಲಾ ತಾನೇ?
ಇಲ್ಲ ಮಗಾ. ಅವ್ರು ’ವಾಟೀಸ್ಯುವರ್ನೇಮ್’ ಅಂದ್ರೆ Rambo ಅಂತಿದ್ದೆ.

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ಪೇರೆಂಟ್ ಟೀಚರ್ ಮೀಟಿಂಗಲ್ಲಿ ಟೀಚರ್ಸ್ಗೆ ಹೇಳ್ಬೇಕು: ಮೇಡಂ, ಕಾಲ ಬದ್ಲಾಗಿದೆ. ಇನ್ಮೇಲೆ ನೀವು ಕರೆಕ್ಷನ್ ಮಾಡ್ದಾಗ ಎರ್ಡ್ ಎರ್ಡ್ ಟಿಕ್ ಹಾಕ್ದ್ರೇನೆ ನಮಗ್ಗೊತ್ತಾಗೋದು, ನೀವ್ ನೋಡಿದೀರಾಂತ!

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ಗುಂಡ ಹುಡುಗೀನ್ ಒಪ್ಕೊಂಡ. ಹುಡ್ಗಿ ಓದಿರೋದು B.Sc. (Organic Chemistry). ಗುಂಡನ್ ಅಮ್ಮ ಹುಡ್ಗೀನ್ ಕೇಳದ್ರು: ಯೇನೇನ್ಮಾಡಕ್ ಬರತ್ತಮ್ಮಾ?
“Acid Mixture, Cyclohexanol, Phenol. Butyl chloride, Ester…ಇಷ್ಟ್ ಬರತ್ ಆಂಟಿ ಸದ್ಯಕ್ಕೆ.”

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ವೆಜ್ಜು, ನಾನ್-ವೆಜ್ಜು, ನಾರ್ತಿಂಡ್ಯನ್, ಸೌತಿಂಡ್ಯನ್, ಸ್ವೀಟು-ಖಾರ, ಚಾಟು, ಚೈನೀಸು… ಅಬ್ಬಬ್ಬಾ ಎಷ್ಟು ವೆರೈಟಿ ತಿನ್ನಕ್ಕ್ ಇದ್ರೂ, ಕೆಲವ್ರಿಗೆ ತಲೆ ತಿನ್ನಕ್ಕೇ ಇಷ್ಟ.

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ಅಪ್ಪ (ಸೋಫಾ ಮೆಲ್ ಮಲ್ಗಿರೋ ಮಗನ್ಗೆ): ಎದ್ರುಮನೆ ಅಂಕಲ್ ಮಗನ್ನೋಡೋ. ನೀನೂ ಇದ್ಯಾ.
ಮಗ: ಯೇನಪ್ಪಾ, ಯಾವಗ್ಲೂ ಅವ್ರ್ ಮಗನ್ನೋಡು ಅಂತಾನೇ ಹೇಳ್ತ್ಯಾ. ಅವ್ರಿಗ್ ಮಗಳೂ ಇದಾಳೆ.
*ಓಸಿಡಿ ಅಂದ್ರೆ ಅಬ್ಸೆಸಿವ್ಲಿ ಕಂಪೇರಿಂಗ್ ಡಿಸೀಸ್

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ಪ್ರಪಂಚ ಎಷ್ಟ್ ಮುಂದ್ವರ್ದಿದೆ ಅಂದ್ರೆ – ಸಿಂಪಲ್ಲಾಗ್ ‘ಸೇ’ ಇಲ್ಲ ‘ಟೂ’ ಅಂತಿದ್ವಿ. ಈಗದನ್ನೇ block ಇಲ್ಲ unblock ಅಂತಾರೆ.

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(ಒಂದೇ ಉಸಿರಿಲ್ಲಿ ಓದಿ)
ಭಾರತ-ಶ್ರೀ ಲಂಕಾ-ಸಿಂಗಾಪೂರ್-ಮಲೇಷಿಯಾ ಮುಂತಾದ ದೇಶಗಳಲ್ಲಿ ಹೆಚ್ಚಾಗಿ ಮಾರಾಟವಾಗುವ ಹಲ್ಲು-ಪುಡಿ, ಗೋಪಾಲ್ ಹಲ್ಲು ಪುಡಿ.
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ಯೇನ್ ರಾಮಣ್ಣ, ಅಷ್ಟೊಂದ್ ಆಳವಾಗಿ ಯೋಚಿಸುತ್ತಿದ್ದೀ?
ಮನೆಗೆ ಮತ್ತು ದನಗಳ ಕೊಟ್ಟಿಗೆಗೆ ಯಾವ್ ಶೀಟ್ ಹಾಕಬೇಕು ಅಂತಾ ಯೋಚಿಸುತ್ತಿದ್ದೆ.
ಅದಕ್ಕ್ ಯಾಕ್ ಯೋಚಿಸ್ಬೇಕು? ಒಳ್ಳೆ ಚಾರ್ಮಿನಾರ್ ಶೀಟ್ಗಳನ್ನ ಕೊಂಡ್ರಾಯ್ತು. ನಮ್ ತಾತನ್ ಕಾಲದಲ್ಲಿ ಕೊಂಡದ್ದು, ಈಗಲೂ ಗಟ್ಟಿಮುಟ್ಟಾಗಿವೆ ನೋಡು.
ಹೌದಾ? ಸರಿ. ಚಾರ್ಮಿನಾರ್ ಶೀಟ್ಗಳನ್ನೇ ಕೊಳ್ತೀನಿ.
ಮನೆಗೆ, ಶಾಲೆಗೆ ಮತ್ತು ಗೋದಾಮುಗಳಿಗೆ ಚಾರ್ಮಿನಾರ್ ಶೀಟ್ಗಳನ್ನೇ ಕೊಳ್ಳಿ. ಪ್ರತಿ ನಗರದಲ್ಲೂ ಚಾರ್ಮಿನಾರ್ ದಾಸ್ತಾನುಗಾರರಿದ್ದಾರೆ.
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ವಿವಿಧಭಾರತಿಯಲ್ಲಿ ನಂದನ-ಬೃಂದಾವನ ಶುರು ಆಗಕ್ಕೆ ಮುಂಚೆ, ಮುಗಿದ ಮೇಲೆ ಪ್ರಸಾರ ಆಗ್ತಿತ್ತು ಈ ads.
ನೆನೆಪಿದೆಯೇ?

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KAILASH WET GRINDER
ಸುಲಭದಿ ಉಪಯೋಗ
KAILASH WET GRINDER
ಸಮಯದ ಉಳಿತಾಯ
ವಿಶ್ವಾಸನೀಯ ಕೈಲಾಷ್.
KAILASH WET GRINDER
ಸುಲಭದಿ ಉಪಯೋಗ
KAILASH WET GRINDER
ಸಮಯದ ಉಳಿತಾಯ
ವಿಶ್ವಾಸನೀಯ ಕೈಲಾಷ್.
The ‘Kailash Wet Grinder’ 10 second TVC must have been the first Kannada ad that was consecutively played twice.
They sponsored the serial “CRAZY COLONEL” on Doordarshan in the mid-80s.
ನೆನೆಪಿದೆಯೇ?

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Universal Law of Change:
Since ages, ಮನೇಲಿ ದಿನಸಿ-ತಿಂಡಿ ತರಕ್ಕೆ ಮಕ್ಕಳನ್ನ ಕಳ್ಸದ್ರೆ, ಚಿಲ್ಲರೆ ಅವ್ರದ್ದೆ.

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Feels ‘wow’ when this kid calls me “Magician Uncle”! Say “Thanks” to her, SK!
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Lord Krishna Bank was a private sector bank headquartered at Kodungallur, in Thrissur District of Kerala state in India. Lord Krishna Bank became a scheduled commercial bank in 1971. In 2007, Lord Krishna Bank was merged with Centurion Bank of Punjab. In the ’90s, the bus stopped right in front of Lord Krishna Bank branch near Sivananda Circle. By the time I got to know about LKB, LKB was gone.

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ಪ್ಯಂಟ್ ಜೇಬಲ್ಲಿ ಐವತ್ತೋ-ನೂರೋ ಸಿಕ್ಕಿದಾಗ ಆಗೋ ಖುಷಿ, ಸಂಬಳ ಸಿಕ್ಕಿದಾಗ್ಲೂ ಆಗಲ್ಲ.

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ಗುರುಪೌರ್ಣಮಿಯಂದು ನಮ್ಮ ಗುರುಗಳ ಚರಣಾರವಿಂದಗಳಿಗೆ ಶಿರಸಾ ನಮಾಮಿ, ಮನಸಾ ಸ್ಮರಾಮಿ! ಅಣ್ಣಾವ್ರೇ ನಮ್ ಗುರು! ಅಣ್ಣಾವ್ರಿಗಿಂತ ಗುರು ಬೇಕಾ?!

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ಈ ನಡ್ವೆ ladies…bag ಹಿಡ್ಕೊಂಡ್ ಹೊರಟ್ರೆ – ಕಾಲೇಜೋ, ಆಫಿಸ್ಸೋ, ತರ್ಕಾರೀಗೋ – ಎಲ್ಲೀಗ್ ಹೋಗ್ತಿದಾರೆ ಅಂತ್ಲೇ ಹೇಳಕ್ಕಾಗಲ್ಲಾ.

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Me: Maga, which momo do you like?
Son: Egg Momo. And you?
Me: ನಗು momo.

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ಎಲ್ಲ ಪಾತ್ರೆಗಳಿಗೆ ಕಲಾಯಿ ಹಿಡಿಸಿದ್ರೆ, it becomes alkali.

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For a Mass hero, weight matters.

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When I saw my vehicle mechanic replace the bike tyres, I got to know that he will progress spiritually well and quickly because he knows chakra alignment.

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Kids are in their elements when you take them out of the compound.

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What do you call a part-time bus conductor?
Semi-conductor.

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To become a doctor, you got to write NEET. Later, you will anyway not write NEETLY.

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A liquor shop near a temple?
Heavenly D-Wine.

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Dumbiryani is a smart choice.

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Superconductor: Rajinikanth before he became a superstar

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ಅವನ ಹೆಂಡತಿ ಅವನನ್ನ ಎಕ್ಕಸ್ದಾಗೆಲ್ಲ ಅವನು ಮನಸಲ್ಲೇ ಹೇಳ್ಕೋತಿದ್ದ: ಎಕ್ಸು ಎಕ್ಸು…ಎಷ್ಟೇ ಆದ್ರೂ ನಿನ್ನೊಳಗಿರೋದು ಎರಡು ಎಕ್ಸು*.

  • XX Chromosome

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Duet or Diet, U and I can make a difference.

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Unexpected holiday ‘showers’! Really happy for these kids. Remembering our schooldays where we got loads of holidays ‘Sud-Suddenly’ due to Kavery Galaate, Gulf war, Babri Masjid demolition etc.!
Every time they are extending the holiday by another day, the kids in our street are celebrating as if India won the world cup!:)

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ಊಟ ಮಾಡಿಸ್ತಾ ಇದ್ದಾಗ ಮಗು ಓಡಿ ಹೋದ್ರೆ: ತುತ್ತು ನಿರ್ಗಮನ

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ಶಾಲಾ-ಕಾಲೇಜುಗಳಲ್ಲಿ ಹುಡುಗ ಹುಡುಗಿ ಒಬ್ಬರನ್ನೊಬ್ಬರು ಮೊದಲು ನೋಡಿದಾಗ, ಸ್ವಲ್ಪ ಹೊತ್ತು ನಾಚಿಕೆ-ಸಂಕೋಚ ಇರತ್ತೆ. Because it is ಶೈ ಕ್ಷಣಿಕ.

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ಮನೆ ಹೊರಗೆ ಹೊಗೆ ಇದೆ ಅಂದ್ರೆ, ಒಳಗೆ ಯಾರೋ ಹೊಗೆ ಹಾಕ್ಕೊಂಡ್ರು ಅಂತ್ ಅರ್ಥ.

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English Ma’m: Raju, tell me the future tense of “I slapped you.”
Raju: Ma’m, your scooty will be punctured by lunch time.

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Supernova: Lot of pain

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Dynamo: A person who is desperate to see Na.Mo.

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What are negative numbers?
Numbers <35
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Q. What are Roman Numbers?
Imagine making Iyengar puliogare using chinese ingredients!
Same way, Numbers written without using any numbers but English alphabet.
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Q. What are Whole numbers?
A. 4, 6, 8, 9, 0
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Cinders: ಮುಖ ಸಿಂಡರಿಸಿದಾಗ ಕಾಣುವ ಗೆರೆಗಳು
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Imagine a foreigner joining a class here which has 118 kids. Suppose 82 of these kids are named: Kallesha, Mallesha, Lakshmisha, Rakesha, Rajesha, Somesha, Harisha, Nagesha, Gowrisha, Madesha, Ganesha, Veeresha, Neelesha, Pranesha, Gyanesha, Anisha, Abhilasha, Manjusha, Amisha, Anusha, Shrisha, Usha, Nirosha, Manisha, Paresha, Ramesha, Paramesha, Natesha, Shailesha, Umesha, Mahesha, Kaatesha, Lokesha and so on.
That is like almost 70% of the 118 kids names are rhyming.
Imagine the foreigner trying to remember his classmates’ names! I think that is how kids feel when they read the names of the elements in the Periodic Table, with so many names ending with IUM.
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Escalator: Transition ಮೆಟ್ಟಲ್
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Allow: Used as a greeting while answering the telephone
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ಸದ್ಯಕ್ಕೆ, ನನ್ನ ಸುಪುತ್ರ ಮತ್ತು ನಮ್ ಕ್ರಿಕೆಟರ್ಸ್ ಇಬ್ಬರದ್ದು ಒಂದೇ ಕಥೆ: ಟೆಸ್ಟು-ಟೆಸ್ಟು-ಟೆಸ್ಟು
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ಹೆಂಗಾಗ್ಬಿಟೀದೀವಿ ಅಂದ್ರೆ… ಶೆಲ್ಫಿಂದ ಹಳೇ ಫೋಟೋ ಆಲ್ಬಂ ನೋಡಕ್ಕೇ ಅಂತಾ ತೆಗೆದ್ರೆ, ಯಾಕ್ ಯಾವ್ ಫೋಟೋನೂ ಪ್ಲೇ ಆಗ್ತಿಲ್ವಲ್ಲಾಂತನ್ಸತ್ತೆ!
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Bheemana Amavasye: Chota Bheem’s birthday
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One of my Tamilian friend’s father was leaving to the US wearing a US Polo shirt. I told him it was a good choice to wear that shirt. Because ‘US Polo’ in Tamil means “Let’s go to US”.
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Radioactivity: RJ @ work
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ಇನ್ನೂ ಹುಟ್ಟಕ್ಕಿಲ್ಲ ಪೋಲಿ ಆಗೋದು ಯಾರು: ಪೋಲಿಷ್.
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Which is an atheist’s favourite movie?
GODZ ILLA.
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ಅಮ್ಮ (ಮಗನ್ನ ಕ್ರಿಕೆಟ್ ಆಡಕ್ಕೆ ಫ್ರೆಂಡ್ಸ್ ಬಂದ್ ಕರ್ದಾಗ): ರಾಜು, ಮಳೆ ಬರ್ತಿದೆ. ಹೊರ್ಗ್ ಹೋದ್ರೆ ನೆಗಡಿ-ಜ್ವರ ಬಂದ್ರೆ? ಹುಷಾರ್ ತಪ್ಪಿದ್ರೆ? ಹೋಗ್ಬೇಡಾ ಆಡಕ್ಕೆ.
ಅಮ್ಮ (ಮಾರ್ನೇ ದಿವಸ ಬೆಳಿಗ್ಗೆ): ರಾಜು, ಸ್ಕೂಲ್ ಗೆ ಲೇಟ್ ಆಯ್ತು. ಎದ್ದೇಳೋ.
ರಾಜು: ಅಮ್ಮ, ಮಳೆ ಬರ್ತಿದೆ. ಸ್ಕೂಲ್ ಗೆ ಹೋಗಲ್ಲ. ಹೊರ್ಗ್ ಹೋದ್ರೆ ನೆಗಡಿ-ಜ್ವರ ಬಂದ್ರೆ? ಹುಷಾರ್ ತಪ್ಪಿದ್ರೆ?!
*ತಲ್ಪ್ರತಿಷ್ಠೆ
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BCC : ಕಸದ್ ತೊಟ್ಟಿ or email related… depends which model you are.
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Milky way: ಹಾಲು ಚೆಲ್ಲಿಹೋದಾಗ, ಹರಿದು ಹೋಗುವ ದಾರಿ
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Odometer: A meter that runs… ಅಂದ್ರೆ ಓಡೋ ಮೀಟರ್, ಇನ್ನೇನು?!
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ಕೆಲವೊಮ್ಮೆ, ಎಷ್ಟು ತಲೆ ಕೆರ್ಕೊಂಡ್ರೂ ಸರಿಯಾದ idea ಬರಲ್ಲ. ಆಗೇನು ಮಾಡ್ಬೇಕು? start from scratch, once again.
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ಕೂಟು, ಗೊಜ್ಜು, ಮಜ್ಜಿಗೆ ಹುಳಿ ಇವೆಲ್ಲಕ್ಕಿಂಥ ಸಿಂಪಲ್ ಆಗಿರೋ ಸಾರು ಪವರ್ ಫುಲ್ಲು. ಯಾಕೆ ಅಂತೀರಾ? ಸಾರು ಒಂದಕ್ಕೆ ಒಂದು department ಇರೋದು. ಅದೇ ‘ಸಾರಿಗೆ ಸಂಸ್ಥೆ’.
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Same-sects marriage has been prevalent in India for ages.
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ಬಯ್ಯೋದ್ರಿಂದ ಆಗುವ stress is ABIOTIC STRESS.
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B. K. S. Iyengar (1918 – 2014)

August 20, 2014

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Caricature & Design: RK Bellur / Rambling with Bellur

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” I know you Westerners say BKS stands for beat, kick and slap. By learn it means Beauty, Knowledge, Serenity!!” – BKS Iyengar, who was known to “beat, kick, slap” students who had trouble conforming.

I thought it stood for “Both Knees Straight”!

Swine Flu Cartoon – 2

May 2, 2009

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Cartoon: RK

Another cartoon related to Swine Flu:

Swine Flu Scare

Also visit the Cartoon page on RwB.

Swine Flu Scare

April 30, 2009

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Cartoon: RK

Also visit the Cartoon page on RwB.

Cycling for a clean world and a healthy life!

August 6, 2008

 

Related links:

Life cycle

July 19, 2008

Pot belly. I used to always feel jealous of most of my uncles as they had such wonderful paunches. Until a couple of years after marriage, I had no Hotte (it was as flat as Rajkumar’s). But since last year, it resembles Ambareesh’s.

It’s been a decade since I started riding motor-driven vehicles. Until then, it used to be my favourite Atlas Rebel that I used to ride. My uncle in Poona presented it to me after I passed 10th. Bought it on a Sunday morning in 1992 from a shop on SP Road for Rs.1300. Friends admired the new fella saying “Super tyres, Chindhi look, maga!”

Drove from anywhere to anywhere on my Rebel until I finished college. A year later, bought a Third-hand TVS-50 XL moped. Enjoyed it for a couple of years, and then bought my first bike – Bajaj Boxer AT – days after ‘Shabdhavedhi’ was released. My girlfriend (now, my wife) used to love the long rides. Five years after I bought it, started getting a lot of back-ache. On the first day of 2007, went for one of those exchange offers and got Bajaj-Platina. Till date, I find it very comfortable and absolutely no back pain. Decent mileage.

Last fortnight, just to get out of the monotonous driving mode, came to office for a week by BMTC. The frequency of buses is very good. Buses are not too crowded, and conductors seemed very calm and patient. There is hardly anyone who buys tickets. Everyone says ‘Pass’. Remembered the bus scenes during my college days (I always travelled on footboard, of course to show-off) – people would get suffocated inside – and the conductor would keep yelling (at those inside) ‘Mundhe banni’ (come front), ‘Chillare kodi’ (give change) and stuff.  People never did both. Coming to the present, I hardly see guys on footboard, ‘coz there’s enough space for everyone inside. Also, the doors are closed once the bus starts moving. Anyway, footboard travel is bad.

After Bus-aata, now its Cycle-aata. Since last week, have started cycling to office (Malleswaram to Jayanagar). The drive is damn exciting, and I feel fresh throughout the day. I have started enjoying every bit of the ride on my favourite ‘Rebel’. Had acquired my paunch after many years with great difficulty. But offlate, used to hate when everyone started giving more attention to it, rather than its owner. And during these inflationary times, didn’t want my tummy to get inflated more.

Coming to office has become more exciting. What more, my boss is kicked up seeing my ‘Rebel’! And wants to start cycling again. Also, now my son prefers the ’rounds’ on the cycle, than the motor-bike. So after cycling home, have to take my son ‘doubles’ for a few minutes in and around Malleswaram. And he hates when I say – OK Boss, let’s go home!

Just for the record, the very first vehicle that I ever rode was a slim red-tricycle, in the year when Rajkumar’s ‘Operation Diamond Racket’ (remember ‘Eef  you come today’?) was released.

Related link: Cycling is good

3 December is ‘World Disability Day’

November 30, 2007

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‘We all are different. We all have ability.
We all are differently-abled.
rwb salutes the difference.’

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World Aids Day 2007

November 30, 2007

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People who drain our energy

November 2, 2007

by Latha Vidyaranya 

We often come across people after speaking to whom we feel so drained of our energy! Perhaps we can call them ‘energy-vampires’! They keep talking to us endlessly about themselves and their woes and constantly complaining on somebody or something that they seldom allow us to talk in between and make a contribution to the talk. It becomes a monologue rather than a dialogue. In spite of getting bored and irritated with such people, we continue to give them our precious time thinking that we are in some way obliged to listen to them. S/he may be our friend, our sibling or our own parent, especially mothers, who go on talking about their past difficulties or their present poor relationship with another child or in-law or about anything else that least interests us. But we simply surrender to them and continue to give them our time.
 
STOP! We are in no way obliged to listen to them always! It is fine to give our ear to somebody who may badly want to share his/her difficulty to lighten their emotional burden. We are doing a good job by helping them to relieve themselves of some life problem that they had been suppressing all these days. In fact at the end of the session they feel so grateful to us that we were patient enough to listen to their woes and perhaps even gave a few valuable suggestions to overcome those troubles. It is perfectly laudable.

But not so laudable is lending our time to listen to the same old stories of our own kith and kin day in and day out! We have every right to withdraw ourselves from such people because we are ending up as victims ourselves! This surely is an abuse on our time! Please understand that as adults we all have our own priorities set and we need time and energy to reach these goals. We can not let someone eat up all our time and constantly weep on our shoulders. We have an obligation to help them realize that it can not go on and on and that we will not be available to them henceforth to discuss things that may not have any solutions and that we are all obliged to cope with certain of these difficulties that have no visible end. In fact we are doing a disservice to them by developing a kind of dependency in them upon us.

Once this is stated matter-of-factly the ‘energy-vampire’ realizes that each one of us adults is responsible for our own upliftment or digging our own graves! We all have to draw energy from our own inner resources and help ourselves out of difficulties or learn some coping strategies. They need to very clearly see that their continuous outpours everyday with us is creating distances in our own relationship with other family members. Others (our spouse, our kids) have an equal right to demand our time, all of which is currently being drained by this particular person. You can not let other relationships get damaged because of your misplaced priorities on this person’s woes. Please wake up now and keep people at right distances and allow yourself the precious time and space that is very much required for your own growth.

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(Latha Vidyaranya is a Special Educator and Counsellor and has founded ‘Empower Counselling Centre’ in Malleswaram, Bangalore.)

Blog Cartoon – 42

October 23, 2007

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Cartoon: RK

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